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Matt's Words of Wisdom

Just Show Up

Monday July 13, 2020 I roll out of bed and I’m hit with another wave of anxiety and depression. These past six months have revealed glaring chinks in my armor.  With more time this year to reflect...

The Cure To Loneliness

I was born in New York City but I’ve always felt like an immigrant in the United States. My mom is French and my dad is Puerto Rican. My ancestors are from Ireland and Lebanon. When I was 3 years ...

You Are Enough

On January 1st, 2020, I deleted my personal Instagram permanently.I’d had it for 5 years.I was closing in on 300,000 wonderful followers. Mama, I’d made it! Yet for every new follower I got, I ...

Stop Trying to Change the World

I often get down on myself for not doing enough for the world.  Every day we’re inundated with news of a new global crisis. How do you pick what to fix? How do you decide where to put your energy?...

Trying To Survive

Sometimes stormy days. Aren’t followed by sunny days. It feels like the rain will never stop. Other times you get a string of sunny days. That seem like they’ll never go away. Like it’ll never ra...

Vulnerability Gone Wrong

Vulnerability is hot right now. Everyone’s acting vulnerable.Or at least trying to. Posting long, inspiring captions on Instagram about their insecurities. Revealing what hurts to their friends, ...

Kobe Bryant

He was invincible. When we’re young we all feel invincible.  We’re unafraid to try. To take risks. To be vulnerable. But as we grow up these things keep happening. We are constantly reminded of ou...

My Battle With Anxiety

My life both ended and began on August 13th, 2011.  I was 19 years old. It was 10 pm. On a warm summer night in Connecticut. I had organized a party while my parents were out of town. All my high ...

How To Be Attractive

For most of my adolescent life, I struggled with attracting women.   I’d be too shy to ask girls out.   I’d act cooler than I was to try to get their attention.    I’d let my insecurities get the ...

Why You Must Steal

I have a terrible secret to confess. I’m a thief. The newsletters I’ve written. The videos we’ve made. The things we’ve said. All stolen. From other authors. Filmmakers. Philosophers. Painters. Yo...

Ask For What You Want

Christopher Columbus was a mediocre sailor at best.   He could never figure out the longitude and latitude of where he landed.   He would confuse islands for continents.   His crewmen knew more ab...

Don't Settle

My mentor always says, “You’ll know you’ve found ‘the one’ when you feel like you’ve tricked her into being with you.” When you’re sure she’s way out of your league. And you just can’t believe you...

Our Closest Experience With Death

Imagine that your house is on fire. What do you do? You haven’t practiced. You don’t even know how to use a fire extinguisher. But you have to think quick. Because the clock is ticking. So you foc...

You Don't Want To Be Happy

One of my mentors works with many wealthy people. Some of them are billionaires. One day at lunch I asked him, “What do these people have in common?” I was looking for a secret to their success. I...

The Beast

In the three and half years since we started Yes Theory, there were at least ten times we wanted to call it a day and quit. Where we thought it would be over soon regardless. We were on the verge ...

You're So Weird

I hate the word weird. With a burning passion. Calling something weird is judgmental. It’s ignorant. It’s rushing to conclusions. “That’s weird” are the two ugliest words in the English language. ...

My Favorite Drug

I replaced drugs with discomfort.And discomfort, I soon realized, is a far different type of addiction.It doesn’t grow stale.It doesn’t make you weak in the long term.Quite the opposite.The posit...

I Hate My Birthday

I’ve always hated my birthday. Every year, I dread growing one year older. It’s a reminder of the goals I still haven’t achieved. Of the tasks I’ve left unfulfilled. Of all the flaws I thought I...

Be Patient

We want the solution.We want it now.We want to change. To be better. To be fitter. To be happier. And when it doesn’t happen as fast as we expect, we get all sorts of fucked up. We think we’re do...

The Ironman

  When I first met Jerome five years ago, I was in awe of him.He was the first Ironman I’d ever met.When he explained what the race entailed, I couldn’t fathom it.“You’re telling me you swam for...